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Lady_girl
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Registered: 03-28-2006 Location:
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posted on 12-01-2006 at 06:55 |
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Not enjoying sex????
I recently got a new boyfriend and we had sex, this was only the second time id done it, so it was still painful etc.. however when he fingers me/puts his penis in me, it does not turn me on at all..
is this totally weird??????????
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dreamangel
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Registered: 02-26-2006 Location:
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posted on 12-01-2006 at 08:16 |
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Some advice
It takes most women years before they learn to orgasm from intercourse and MOST women cannot orgasm AT ALL from intercourse (penis in vagina) The vaginal canal does not have many nerve endings. There isn't a lot of sensation. It's only through the G-spot that women can have vaginal orgams and this can take some time to find and lots of practice. Most people find that sex only begins to 'get' good over time and with the same partner. It's only after married couples have been having sex for ten years and completely know each other's bodies and what turns each other on that sex begins to get good!!! Sex gets better and better with time, I would say. Being in love would also help.
So don't worry about it! What you're experiencing is totally normal.
I hope your boyfriend realizes that women cannot orgasm with simple thrusting alone!! You need lots of foreplay with focus on the clitoris...This is the ONLY way most women get pleasure/orgasm so focus on the clitoris...oral sex, ect...
Also, you should figure out how to give yourself pleasure first. Masturbate and figure out how to give yourself and orgasm and then tell your boyfriend what you like and don't like. You have to take responsibility for your own body as well...another person is not a mind reader and will not know what you like so you have to communicate it with him.
But I would say..don't worry about. The more foreplay there is, the better. The more turned-on/aroused you are before he 'enters' you, the better. There should be a really long build-up so that when you finally have intercourse it will feel better. The problem is that a womens sexual plesure is on the 'outside' of the vagina which doesn't make a lot of sense in terms of intercourse, unfortunately.
If you don't like 'fingering' tell him...focus on the clitoris instead.
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