Amber
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posted on 07-11-2005 at 12:14 |
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i need some help girls...
ok my b/f and i have attempted to have sex twice now and i've asked him to stop because it has hurt sooooooo much. I know that it is supposed to hurt, but come on! I need some advice on how to go about this.... I really want to have sex, but the pain is so extreme. Is it better to go fast, slow? Is lubrication a good idea? Please give me some ideas girls cause there must be a way to make it easier!
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scardtodeath
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posted on 07-31-2005 at 02:51 |
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scard
oka hi amber im srry i cant help u but i want to know how u have went thro with even showung him ure virgina i mean wut happen i want to have sex soo bad and im so scard to even pull down my pants in front of a guy how do i get ober shyness like that?
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The Virgin Nurse
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posted on 07-31-2005 at 17:57 |
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Hello Again...
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ok my b/f and i have attempted to have sex twice now and i've asked him to stop because it has hurt sooooooo much. I know that it is supposed to hurt, but come on! I need some advice on how to go about this.... I really want to have sex, but the pain is so extreme. Is it better to go fast, slow? Is lubrication a good idea? Please give me some ideas girls cause there must be a way to make it easier!
One, lubrication is best to use. Two, Is he too big for you? If so, trying using a dildo(smaller)
Three, Trying talking to your partner. Four, Are you under the age 14? I think you said your were 14. If this is so...what you are doing is wrong. Remember all the risk your taking everytime you have sex...your taking a step closer to a STD, AIDS, HERPS, etc. Even if you use protection and birth control. I just want to throw that in there.
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moonlite
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posted on 08-02-2005 at 19:59 |
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Hello Again Scared
It is so comforting to know that others share some of the same feelings that I have. You are very mature for 16 and I am sure you are a lot of help to me. If I could control my feelings of guilt I would enjot a bit of exploration but my shyness and moral committment prevents it. This is on my mind all of the time and sorry but I even find a bit of sexual excitement discussing with you.
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Amber
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posted on 08-24-2005 at 11:23 |
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advice 4 scared2death
Hi Scared2death....
well hun the first time i was naked in front of my b/f...yea of course i was nervous...my heart was going a mile a minute! But hey i love him and he loves me too....so eventually it becomes really comfortable. Its just that first time! u need to b sure that u r ready for a step like this....and then just go for it! If a guy is with u then he thinks u r beautiful! So he will continue to think that even after u drop ur pants ;)
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Amber
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posted on 08-24-2005 at 11:27 |
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to the virgin nurse
no im not 14 im 18 almost 19.....thx for the advice about the lubricant...i think maybe my b/f might be a little too big for me....but i've read that that really shouldn't matter, that the vagina can stretch to whatever width....any thoughts on this? Well I love him and its actually our anniversary today! YEA! So we r gonna take this whole thing slow...and it will happen when it happens!! (which i hope is soon! lol)
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Amber
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posted on 08-24-2005 at 11:37 |
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hello moonlite
What r some of your moral commitments? If u don't mind me asking....I know its interesting to find girls who have the same feelings and fears...I'm glad I'm not the only one stressing about this...I think we hype sex up to be this massive check point in our lives and it scares us to think that soon we r going to have to take that step. I have been in the 'today's the day' frame of mind for so long now that im just hoping it happens soon cause im tired of waiting! But I have been waiting a long time so theres really no rush for any of us! I know lots of girls who were married when they lost their virginity, and others who were like 15! Its just a personal choice, but being with someone u love really helps!
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moonlite
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posted on 08-25-2005 at 03:46 |
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To Amber
 I know that eventful day will come sometime and I would like to prepare for it. I wonder if any stretching before the actual event would help. I only do it by him rubbing his between my thighs. I was afraid of him soaking through my panties so now I use a piece of Saran Wrap inside my panties with out him knowing it.
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Amber
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posted on 08-25-2005 at 11:20 |
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well...
Apparently you can do some stretching yourself. Just use your fingers to get to know yourself. I mean we shouldn't be freaked out by our bodies....I'm sure guys know themselves pretty well....You can attempt to stretch like that...or if u want to get a little adventurous....maybe your beau could help you 'stretch' with his fingers. Obviously this is a big step, so only attempt it when you are ready. It could be fun for the both of you. I have also heard that using a dildo to stretch works pretty well....but if you are like me and lack the courage to buy one then try the previous idea. Above all else i know its nerve wracking.....but the time will come and if its right....it will come with ease. Plus yea it might hurt....but only once or twice then u r home free to enjoy yourselves forever! Isn't that motive enough??
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moonlite
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posted on 08-25-2005 at 14:42 |
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Well
would really like to lie in his arms and have him to hold me and feel him on my thighs but i have been warned that guys like to "Get it in" Perhaps have him suck on my breasts!! Lovely
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The Virgin Nurse
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posted on 09-11-2005 at 17:21 |
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*looks down*
sorry about getting your age wrong..
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Amber
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posted on 09-12-2005 at 08:46 |
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thats ok
just an honest mistake...
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