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Author: peterluv2toss Subject: why is virginity hated
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posted on 02-25-2006 at 06:56 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
why is virginity hated

nice and simple question so i just wanted some peoples opinions why virginity is almost frowned upon so im just waiting for some feedback because i dont know why but ye virginity is almost hated ill appreciate some feed back thanks
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posted on 02-25-2006 at 14:34 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
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I don't believe it's hated.

I just think some people want to corrupt others who are "innocent."

Also, if they have lost theirs they want everyone else to make the same bad choice they did.
I don't care what everyone else thinks.
I'm a virgin until I'm married.
It's my choice and will show respect for my wife, and myself. ;)
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posted on 02-25-2006 at 19:58 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
missunderstood

I don't think that abstibebce is hated. It is mostly just missunderstood. Virginity in movies is portrayed as something for only loosers who can't find a date or the religiously fanatical when in actuallity there are several different reasons that people remain celibate. I guess that those of us who remain celibate also bring it on ourselves sometimes. There are many people who practice abstinence but far too few that are very outspoken about it.
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posted on 02-25-2006 at 21:01 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Totally Understand

I can understand what you are saying. While "hate" might be a strong word, I've noticed people will act very defensive over virginity, as if they feel threatened. If you deviate from the norm in anyway, people seem to do everything to get you to change your mind or feel bad. I take this as confirmation I'm doing something right. If people who want to wait until marriage were TRULY doing something wrong, it would get no reaction...no one would care or get all riled-up over it. But because it gets the kind of reaction it gets, shows that virginity holds a kind of power. People who heavily 'sleep around' don't want to believe that staying a virgin might have benefits...they would rather justify their own lifestyle. But, many people believe alot of LIES about sex, and following the mindless masses, is never a good idea.

Do this as an experiment: Find a general love and sex discussion board and post a thread about sleeping around, and it will get NO reaction (People will cheer you on) Post a thread about virginity and it will get everyone all riled-up and angrey. (Seriously) it's kind of funny because it just proves the power it holds. It shows that those who do stay a virgin must be doing something right otherwize it wouldn't get the reaction it gets.

How many people do you know who have had bad first time experiences and often regret it???? But once you've reached a certain point in your life, people will begin to find any excuse to justify their lifestyle, whether it's one night stands or 'swinging' within a marriage.

Visit- www.themarriagebed.com
Click on 'discussion boards' Everyone on this site were virgins when they got married. And they've been married for 10 plus years and have amazing sex lives. You can read their personal stories. They had no prior experience before marriage but now they're stripping and role-playing...This shows all the lies non-virgins will believe about sex, and how they will stereotype virgins as being frigid or whatever, which isn't true.
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posted on 02-25-2006 at 23:37 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
hating virginity

Many people "hate" being virgins because they don't want to be considered "not cool". The are intimidated by society's views of them if it is known that they are virgins. But in my opinion, virgins should be proud because it is much harder to say no to sex than to say yes. Personally, I admire virgins much more than I do those who have had sex before marriage.
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posted on 03-15-2006 at 22:34 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
virgin alert

I'm a 35 year old female virgin.I don't have a problem being a virgin
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posted on 03-18-2006 at 16:32 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Not what she meant

'I'm a 35 year old female virgin.I don't have a problem being a virgin'

I don't think the original poster was asking how you personally feel about being a virgin. For MOST people, it's a choice, but rather that society often looks down or 'hates' others for staying virgins. And that being a virgin until a certain age is not socially acceptable and the original poster wants to know why this is????

Just out of curiosity, what are guys reactions when you tell them you are a virgin. I'm only 24, (good looking) I'm a model living in the city and guys where I live expect sex by the third date. If they find out I'm a virgin, I never hear from them again! So does it not get harder as you age???
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posted on 03-21-2006 at 11:32 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
thanks

any way thanks i wrote this i mean you know im 19 and to be honest ive found now music and booze seem to please me more than the though of sex i kinda lost interest but you know third dates i wouldnt expect sex but i kinda get bored easily with dates i cant think what too say lol i mean soccially im totally and out cast but i always voice my opinions but you know i think this site has helped me a lot but i still have issuess you im courius about the world around me so ye ive used drugs not a lot but thata what i always get dumped for ive had less than ten dates ever cos as i said i get bored so thats it oh ye feel free to add me to msn if you like if you need someone to talk to bottom11@hotmail.co.uk thanks people
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posted on 03-21-2006 at 16:38 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
amaaazing

virginity aint frowned upon.. if anything virgins hate those who do have sex. which is silly. bu hey, whatever, all the more power to you who abstain. as for me, I dont mind sex, in fact i rele like it.
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virginity

'virginity aint frowned upon.. if anything virgins hate those who do have sex. which is silly. bu hey, whatever, all the more power to you who abstain. as for me, I dont mind sex, in fact i rele like it.'

A women whose 500 pounds can have an active sex life. As long as you have a pussy, it's not exactly challenging for the average women to get laid, therefore what is there to be jealous about?? Most people choose to wait to have sex. You can only be a virgin once but when it's gone it's gone, and more likely than not, people will regret having sex too soon.
Look around on any general "love and sex' forum and the minute someone mentions wanting to stay a virgin, that person is 'flamed' with bitter and defensive comments. ...I think that say's a lot if you really want to 'read between the lines'.
Virginity IS and WILL always be frowned upon. Deviating from the norm is not as acceptable as the standard way of acting.
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posted on 03-22-2006 at 17:19 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
my new email

my new email
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posted on 03-22-2006 at 18:26 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
hello

Hi there, I missed you all
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Not hated.

I don't think virginity is necessarily hated, it's just something not a lot of people are these days. So, maybe it's looked upon as more unusual than anything.
Don't be ashamed of it. I'm sure more than half the people that make fun of you about it, if they do, wish they had waited a bit longer than they did.
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Well, I don't believe virginity is hated, either, per se.

But, honestly, I don't think virginity is something that should be such a commodity as it is now, especially among women (that is another rant entirely =P).

I'm not saying sex should be given away cheaply to anyone around the corner, but I honestly thiink the way it is treated as "purity" is a bit silly.

I can understand how people can see it as such, but to me, if virginity is the make or break situation in a relationship, that is incredibly shallow. Doesn't most of the relationship happen with your clothes on anyway?

To me, it's whether or not you're willing to have sex with someone you truly care about, not just the first time, but even times subsequent to that.

If you view it as purity, you have a right to that opinion. However, when you're using that as the determining factor in a relationship, I also have the right to think that's incredibly shallow. A person is *not* what has (or has not been) in their pants. There is a lot more to a person than just sex, and such importance placed on this just seems to undermine what is really important in a relationship. Love.

Small edit: to refute this:

"Do this as an experiment: Find a general love and sex discussion board and post a thread about sleeping around, and it will get NO reaction (People will cheer you on) Post a thread about virginity and it will get everyone all riled-up and angrey. (Seriously) it's kind of funny because it just proves the power it holds. It shows that those who do stay a virgin must be doing something right otherwize it wouldn't get the reaction it gets."

You cannot say how "right" it is by the negative reaction given. Last i checked, there were some pretty nasty events in history that would get nasty reactions that I most definitely wouldn't deem right. Conversely, people who do things for human rights and such tend to get rewarded, say, with prizes such as the Nobel.I do not see how virginity would really deviate from this pattern. I cannot see the logic in judging somethings value in the negative reaction it gets. It's just deviation from the norm, is all.

Not to mention, certain forums (such as ones about, say, sex) are probably not going to give you negative reactions to having sex. That's like going to a cat forum and saying you want one, and expecting a bunch of people to tell you, "Ooooh, dogs are better!"
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I dont think that virginity is what one would say "hated" but I do believe non-virgins misunderstand it. I do believe it is frowned upon just because they are not many virgins "walking around' here. Virginity seems secretive but in all reality it isnt, one would be surprised as to how many people their age are actually virgins. I also feel it is frowned upon because it is a one time thing/ opportunity if one were to "mess" it up or "waste" it on "a piece of nothing" theyd feel pretty shitty. idk if Im making sense but virgins if anything are not hated but frowned upon maybe even idoled or honored secretively.
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on a similar note

In my own personal experience . . .

Now that I think about it, my friends and family have been rather supportive about my virginity.

It's the idea of me wanting to find another virgin to experience my first time with: that's where the problem lies. For them. Talk about being misunderstood.

Now, I understand the one poster talking about a person not being just what's in his/her pants.

However, I figure, if I've held on to mine for this long, why is it so unacceptable, so frowned upon, for me to find another virgin to share this with?

And then the terrible assumptions are made, especially about male virgins: "You'll only find ones that are losers are bad looking."

I'm a woman, I don't necessarily consider myself bad looking. I'm intelligent and can be funny when I'm in the mood. You're telling me there's no equal of the opposite sex? And it doesn't help that I have very few people who are supportive of my choice or who just keep crowing that "I'll change my mind" and/or "lower my standards" and be with a non-virgin. I'm not saying my mind couldn't change a long, long, long time from now, but at present it's solid.

So, I guess to add the the thread: why is the preference for a virgin seeking same frowned upon?
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posted on 10-28-2006 at 07:31 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
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well in my school i know alot of people that think being a virging passed 10th grade is bad, but honestly once you do it you realise how many people havent done it they just said it to try and look cool. ive done it already and you really have to be ready to do it, if its not with the right person you will regret it, but people make mistakes.
its not stupid if you wait, its being safe and just waiting for the right person. guys would rather know they are the first person your doing it with then the 8th.
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My view

Being a virgin is seen in the media as being uncool. It's not in the fashion. In a world filled with porn, models, strip clubs and programs based on teenagers growing up (by having sex) it confuses people when others say they don't want to be like that.

Also most people proberly lose it in a hurry the same way they would rush out to buy the latest computer game, music cd or pair of trainers. It is easier for these people to laugh at you for being a virgin than to judge themselfs.

They may have lost it in a hurry but that does not mean they can't regret it. So they insult virgins and laugh at them so they feel they were right to lose it and this makes them feel "in the fashion" again.
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marriagebed forum

QUOTE: 'I can understand what you are saying. While "hate" might be a strong word, I've noticed people will act very defensive over virginity, as if they feel threatened. If you deviate from the norm in anyway, people seem to do everything to get you to change your mind or feel bad. I take this as confirmation I'm doing something right. If people who want to wait until marriage were TRULY doing something wrong, it would get no reaction...no one would care or get all riled-up over it. But because it gets the kind of reaction it gets, shows that virginity holds a kind of power. People who heavily 'sleep around' don't want to believe that staying a virgin might have benefits...they would rather justify their own lifestyle. But, many people believe alot of LIES about sex, and following the mindless masses, is never a good idea.

Do this as an experiment: Find a general love and sex discussion board and post a thread about sleeping around, and it will get NO reaction (People will cheer you on) Post a thread about virginity and it will get everyone all riled-up and angrey. (Seriously) it's kind of funny because it just proves the power it holds. It shows that those who do stay a virgin must be doing something right otherwize it wouldn't get the reaction it gets.

How many people do you know who have had bad first time experiences and often regret it???? But once you've reached a certain point in your life, people will begin to find any excuse to justify their lifestyle, whether it's one night stands or 'swinging' within a marriage.

Visit- www.themarriagebed.com
Click on 'discussion boards' Everyone on this site were virgins when they got married. And they've been married for 10 plus years and have amazing sex lives. You can read their personal stories. They had no prior experience before marriage but now they're stripping and role-playing...This shows all the lies non-virgins will believe about sex, and how they will stereotype virgins as being frigid or whatever, which isn't true.' UNQUOTE

I visited this site and challenged the people there on the topic of oral sex. It's funny because when I said it wasn't Scriptural, I got exactly the kind of 'reaction' you speak of. Could it be because my idea had 'power'?
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Virginity is hated because those same people that scorn us feel bad that they aren't as pure as yourselves, so they simply try to bring you down to their level and get you to do it before marriage too.

There isn't any big question about it.

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Andrew
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why is virginity hated

I think if it is, people may think your a loser for not giving it up or you can't find that someone special. Also you may think its easier to pleasure yourself than to find company. This my experience anyway.
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